First Date Tips
We have some great first date advice for guys and ladies. What is a first date anyway? Is it online dating and that quirky video chat feature on an online dating app, is it in person, or over the phone? These days it’s never too easy to tell.
In the days of a pandemic, or post pandemic, no... still COVID , still in a pandemic dating mode; unless you're vaccinated?? Ok, so bring your vax card just in case you need it but then what if you aren’t? There are many variables! Let’s pretend we are all fully vaccinated for the dating tips and purposes of this article. :)
If you meet online and decide to go on a virtual date; that’s great, you may be able to weed out the bad apples. There is nothing like a first one on one, in person date to get a good sense of their vibe and most importantly mutual CHEMISTRY and physical attraction that a camera and video chat just can’t replicate.
A first date is when you decide if a person you have chosen to spend your time with is interesting enough to further communication and worthy of a second date. Dates can be tricky, and you may be nervous; which is all okay. Don’t concern yourself with being perfect, focus
your attention on your date and whether you have a genuine interest in them. Remember a date is set so that you can learn more about who they are and the life they lead. You should learn about them in a free flowing conversation that is not interrogatory. Your date is not an interview and should not be treated like an episode of Law and Order. This will quickly put your date on edge, they may get defensive, and totally shut down. Your date should be fun, spontaneous and deliberate, not stale, boring and uptight.
Here is what we mean, you want to lead with thought provoking questions, that will lead to great follow up questions and spontaneous banter between the two of you. This isn’t something you need to think about, it’ll occur naturally or it won’t and that’ll give you your answers. A date should, in theory, always be comfortable. Control only what you can, which is you, so don’t overthink it. The person you are with obviously found you interesting, so don’t sweat it. Think of them as an old friend that you are getting reacquainted with after many years. Either you’ll see that friend again or you’ll discover another reason why you guys hadn’t been as close for so long. No chemistry, no flow, no go.
If you quickly discover during your date that they aren't the one for you, carry it through to the end. Be yourself, don’t be rude, thank them for their time and let them know you didn’t feel it was a match. You may not feel comfortable saying that to them in person, so follow up with a friendly text message when they undoubtedly reach back out to you because you're so damn dateable! Avoid ghosting, mere honesty is the best policy and they will appreciate and respect you for it!
If you need any tips on some fun and unconventional date questions, look no further than below! We’ve got you covered!
INTERESTING yet InFORMATIVE DATE QUESTIONS
If we look into your laptop right now, what would your browser history reveal?
When was the last time you cried and why?
If you could have a superpower what would it be?
Do you think your failures or successes drive you more?
What’s the happiest memory you have from your childhood?
If you lived to 100, would you rather keep the body or the mind of yourself right now until you were 100?
Who has had the greatest influence on your life?
How would your friends describe you?
How is important is sex in a relationship to you?
Tell me about your first childhood crush?
What do you believe people misconceive about you the most?
If you were give a million dollars to donate, how would distribute it?
When you were in grade school what did you want to be?
If money wasn’t a factor what career choice would you make?
Have you ever wanted to learn another language? What would it be?
Is there anyone that believes that you are in a romantic relationship with them? ;)
How would you describe your sexual orientation?
How would your boss describe you, no boss? How would your employees? No employees? How would your clients describe you?
What are your views on divorce or divorced couples?
If you found the one, how would you see your life together in the future?